I’m Jessica. Recovering perfectionist and enthusiastic calm-seeker, living in the great city of Cleveland with my pretty-darn-close-to-perfect husband Dustin, our lazy hound dog, cranky old cat, and two very entertaining kittens.
I’m on a mission to learn the very best and most practical ways to add simplicity, calm, and coziness into my life on a daily basis. But it definitely isn’t my natural state. Here’s how I got here:
Once upon a time, I found a job I loved. I worked with a great team. I looked forward to Monday mornings! Promotions happened, responsibilities increased, life added more and more tasks to my to-do list, and free-time vanished. So when the company I worked for was forced to close their doors, I decided it was time for a change.
So, I found a promising part-time job with a tech startup. Good money, working from home…and did I mention part-time? I was going to have so much more time! Time to catch up on all the tasks that had piled up. Time to revisit hobbies that I had gradually abandoned. Time to get enough sleep!
I’d never worked for a startup before…a brand new business idea that the world had never seen. It seemed very exciting. And it was! But it came with a small catch. Within two months, my new little part-time position had turned into a 24/7, don’t put down your phone, never leave your computer, very very full-time position.
Have you ever gotten up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom and found 21 time-sensitive emails that need a response? I have. I’ve also spent what was supposed to be a camping trip over a holiday weekend, sitting on a boat focused on my tablet screen, dealing with a crisis, instead of relaxing and recharging.
After a couple of months, I just couldn’t take any more. I was done. I was sleep-deprived. I was so stressed out, my ears rang. I was snapping at my husband. I was getting regular migraines for the first time in years. This job was taking a toll on my health, my marriage, and my mental well-being and I. Was. Done. I had nothing left. I was frustrated and angry that I couldn’t do it all. That was also when I realized that there had to be a better way to balance life.
I started researching self-care, balance, minimalism, hygge…things began to click. I discovered that there really are people that don’t feel increasingly crushed under the weight of the lives they’ve created for themselves. People who have time to think. People who enjoy their days instead of just trying to get through them. Not just independently wealthy folks. Not just retired folks. Or people between jobs at the moment. Normal people, with full lives, and families, and bills to pay. How were they doing this?
Intentionally, that’s how. By deciding what they want their days to look like, then Making. It. Happen.
I quit that draining job. I did gig work to make up for the lost income. I took a long hard look at my life, my schedule, my responsibilities, and learned how to SUBTRACT things instead of constantly adding more.
It’s been over 2 years now and I’m not an expert, but I am much calmer. I have a handle on life again. I have free time. I CREATE free time. I still get overwhelmed and over-scheduled from time to time – life happens – but it’s not a way of life anymore. And I want to share what I’ve learned with you, so you can take back your life and your time!